In REM’s “Finest Worksong” Michael Stipe says that “what we want and what we need has been confused.” That notion has been on my mind as of late. It occurs to me as we have been listening to the phone ring over the past few days.
While in Florida a week or two ago, someone told me that they couldn’t live without caller ID. Well, I said. But before I could go any farther, the person went on to how it was their life saver. I tried to change the subject to call waiting. I figure that caller ID, while far from necessary for life was at least not as annoying as call waiting. The person said that they needed that too. More than that, they needed it on their cell phone as well. How could you live without a cell phone?
Well, I said, but the fight wasn’t worth it.
Before long there was talk of digital video recorders, digital cable televsion, and more. I faded out of the conversation realizing that I was the odd one.
But don’t go thinking that I’m above all of this. After all, I’m typing at a computer (one of four that I own), and online. These are things I want very much. These are things I don’t want to live without.
Note that I want but don’t need them.
Consider that caller-ID costs about five dollars a month, call-waiting is the same, a cell phone averages at least fifty dollars (usually much more) each month and digital cable with a digital video is at least one-hundred dollars. Add to that something I would like but don’t need, high speed internet, and it’s another fifty dollars each month. All of this adds up to at least $210 each month or just over $2500 each year. And I’m low-balling these numbers.
My wife and I have decided that we need to raise our children and that to do this in the way we think they deserve, one of us must stay home and be with them. In our case, my wife has elected to stay home because she is better with the children and because my teaching job has better benefits. In order to do what we need to do, we have had to better understand what we want and what we need.
Do we need cable televison, call waiting, caller-ID, cell phone service, a luxury car, high speed internet, Nike shoes, assorted bling-bling, or the rest of the things that television and print advertisers are sure we need? The answer for us is a clear no. The answer for others depends on how they answer the question what do you want and what do you need? For that person in Florida, caller-ID is absolutely necessary.
Which brings me back to the fact that our phone has been ringing lately. Over the last two days, the phone has rung eight separate times and, when we have not answered it, the caller or callers have not left a message on our machine. If we had caller-ID, we would know who this person is. I can imagine that person from Florida saying that this is why we need caller-ID. And each time I imagine them saying it, I know how I would respond: if we really want to know who is calling, all we have to do is pick up the phone. But really, I don’t need to know. I don’t need it at all.